My Post-Grad Life: How I Maintain Optimism After College

My Post-Grad Life: How I Maintain Optimism After College

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Life after college can bring a rollercoaster of emotions. And if you’re anything like me, you were completely terrified to graduate. And that’s okay. Here are my tips for maintaining an optimistic attitude even after you leave the happiest place on Earth (yes, I mean college).

1. Apply, apply, apply

Months before I graduated, I aggressively applied for jobs. This may be because I had friends who graduated years prior to me, and I know that they had a hard time finding work. Being the planner and go-getter that I am, I wanted to make sure that I left college with a next step firmly in place. I may not know where I will be five years from now, but I wanted to know where I would be five months from graduation. I stuck to Indeed and LinkedIn for my two online job boards, and I ended up finding my now-job after six months of applications.

I applied to hundreds of jobs before landing this one last April. It wasn’t a walk in the park finding it, but I am so grateful that I started applications in October. It allowed me to get used to the idea of rejection early on.

Even if you don’t have a job by the time you graduate, keep applying. Filling out apps will allow you to always have an end goal in mind: get the job. You could find one sooner than you think!

2. Always have something to look forward to

When Chris and I were planning out Walt Disney World trip, we wanted to pick dates that would be months after we graduated college. This trip is a celebration for us, and we wanted to make sure that as we began working our post-grad jobs, we had something to look forward to. And after we get back from this trip, we plan to pick our next trip ASAP (in our case, it will hopefully be a springtime trip with our college friends!!).

I realize that traveling is not accessible to everyone, but you don’t have to have an expensive trip in mind in order to be looking forward to your future. A weekend brunch date, a new podcast, or even a delicious breakfast every morning can give you the same sense of optimism. Making sure you always have something to look forward to will help you get over the fact that you won’t be returning to your undergrad life.

3. Work toward a goal every day

I am a very goal-oriented individual, and I believe that you should have at least one goal that you are working toward every day. This can be a goal at your job, in your home, within your hobbies, or anything that you can think of that makes your heart beat. It is highly important that you work to achieve something, big or small.

Because I am planning on attending grad school within the next three years, the new goal I will be working toward is studying to retake the GRE. But every day I work toward a goal of booking more meetings at work. Every week I strive to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Every month I aim to learn something new, whether it is from a book or a podcast.

We learn and grow so much during our undergraduate years. Why can’t we continue to do so post-grad?

 

These are just a few tips that I use to make sure I am optimistic during this weird and emotional time of my life. I still miss college—I just barely graduated!!—but keeping these things in mind really helps me understand how wonderful life can be. Hey, if you’re like me, we’re just getting started.

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Taking Life Slowly

Taking Life Slowly

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I have officially been working at my first full-time job for two months. Two months! When I first started, I could hardly imagine what it would feel like to say that I had been working for a couple months. I know that is a silly thing to say, but it’s true: full-time work straight out of college is a swan dive into the unknown. But it’s been grand, to say the least.

There are ups and downs, whirlygigs and flipper-floppers. Some days feel like a monotonous routine of traffic-work-traffic-sleep, while others feel exciting (such as when I book a few meetings for some AEs or I eat at a new restaurant). But today I was reminded of how amazing and blessed it is for me to even have these days at all. How thankful I am to have ups and downs, because they signify that I’m alive.

Today, I told myself I would take life slowly. During shavasana at our weekly Yoga in the Park (I know, it’s amazing that we do this at work now…my job rocks), I focused on being completely present. I set the intention that I would become more present in everything I do, from something as simple as chewing my food and paying attention to how it tastes, to something as complex as truly focusing on my productivity in the office. I have written about intentional living a lot on this blog, but I think living in the present is a big part of that. And I believe wholeheartedly that being 100% present in everything I do really helps me thrive as an individual. I am more productive, happier, and healthier when I practice presence.

So this evening, as Chris was hard at work in the ED, I took myself on a dinner date. I ate at a vegan cafe that I’ve been dying to try but Chris hasn’t been interested in. I brought my book and my headphones. I ordered an avocado roll and dou hua and a latte (and I even spoke to the owner in Chinese!!). I chewed my food. I tasted my dessert. I burnt my tongue on my coffee. And I read. I fell in love again and again with every breath I took because this experience of solitude amid the busyness of my days felt truly magical.

Take a breath. Realize that you’re here. It’s okay if you don’t know why yet, but you’re here. So be present.

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Tea Time & Life Lately

Tea Time & Life Lately

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You can’t tell much from these pictures, but this tea place in San Jose was totally adorable. There were tree stump stools and tables, chalk board menus, and succulents everywhere. Too. cute.

One of our favorite things to do is explore new places to eat. So we decided to get out of the house on Saturday (well actually, I was in a bit of a funky mood and Chris agreed to take me out hehehe) and try a tea place we hadn’t ever heard of: Tea Lyfe.

Settled in Vietnam Town in East San Jose, this place is super cute and definitely a hidden gem, in my opinion. I got the Matcha Sensation, and at 80% sweetness, this was definitely my cup of tea (lol). Chris got the Mango Rose, which wasn’t his taste, unfortunately, but we both think he should stick to what he likes, more often than not. If this wasn’t so out of our way, I’d definitely go back sometime soon (okay it’s really not that far, but I mean who would say no to Share Tea?!).

Life lately has had its ups and downs. I’ve definitely gotten waves of homesickness since moving to the Bay, but keeping myself busy definitely helps a ton. I think just taking time to do new things with Chris helps me recenter myself and feel great. We started volunteering weekly together, and today he went to yoga with me. It made my heart so happy!

I’ve also been looking into grad school more and more lately. I just miss school so much already, and I only graduated two months ago! Learning is just my favorite. I’ve been reading a lot of articles and blog posts lately to feel inspired, and this book I’m reading has also been keeping me from getting into a grub life slump.

That’s all I’ve got for now! Thanks for reading 🙂

On Magic & Love

On Magic & Love

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Our love works because I believe in magic, and you’re open to the idea of it. And that’s enough.

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I have always believed in magic. As a child, I would say prayers to Santa Claus, wish to become a fairy, and dream almost every night of Peter Pan taking me away to Neverland. I would go to bed squeezing the tops of my ears in hopes that they would look elfish, and I sincerely thought that all of my lost things went to the same place.

So when I feel head over heels in love for the first time in my life, you could say it hit me pretty hard. The feeling of loving another person so much that you cannot think of anything that could happen to make that love go away…well, that could only be magic, right?

Magic and love have many things in common, but their biggest tie is this: neither can be explained. If you asked me to explain how much I love Chris, I would probably have to give you a list of things I could compare it to.

It’s like waking up on a Monday and realizing you have the day off from school. 

It’s like going to sleep on a Saturday night knowing you still have one more day of the weekend. 

It’s like walking on the beach in the winter, the chilly wind blowing in your face, cozy in your favorite sweater. 

It’s like not ordering dessert at a restaurant because you know you’re stopping by your favorite cafe after dinner (the one that gives out cake samples and has your favorite hot cocoa). 

I could go on and on, but like magic, love isn’t something you can hold, or even see. It’s a feeling.

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Now when I talk about things like this to Chris, he isn’t much for explanations that can’t be linked to science or reason. He’s more of the “your-brain-releases-chemicals-and-your-attraction-to-someone-else-is-biological-and-blah-blah-blah-hormones-science-brain-stuff” kind of guy. I could go for hours talking about magic, and he wouldn’t necessarily agree with me…but he won’t really disagree, either.

When I start to speak about it—when I tell him how our love works and how I believe he’s magical—he shares how he, too, believes that I was made just for him.

Chris may not believe in magic as much I do. But he’s open to the idea of it. And that’s why our love works.

 

 

Summer in the ‘Lil City

Summer in the ‘Lil City

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My top is from Hollister, my skirt is from Romwe, and my shoes are from Target (I wear them basically every single day hahaha). 

Hey everyone! Long time no blog. It’s been so long since updating this website: I have graduated college, moved to the Bay Area, and begun working in my first full-time job. What the heck?!

I think over the past year I have truly found my style—and I am so excited to finally start updating this blog with more outfit posts! I love dressing in clothes that make me feel confident, and this outfit was perfect for my Saturday summertime lunch with Chris.

We had a day out in Palo Alto at the Stanford Shopping Center, and Chris—being the angel of a boyfriend that he is—snapped a couple photos of my outfit…and told me how to look cute in the pics. 🙂

Life in the Bay is definitely different. It has taken some getting used to! But something I love about it here is that there is always something to do. I have found myself discovering a new place every week, whether it is a little restaurant or a thrift shop. And that keeps life interesting.

I have found that working full-time can be very tiring and monotonous, so going out on the weekend (even if it is just a little outing to lunch in a nearby city, like Chris and I did) helps me to feel good and happy. I love staying home, but I can get very bored on the weekends if I spend all day inside!

That’s all I have for today! Thanks for reading and sticking with me, even after it’s been so long. Let me know your thoughts on what I should post next. You’ll be seeing a WDW update sometime soon.

On Being Humble

On Being Humble

Humility is one of the most important qualities for us to have. Understanding when we are wrong, not being prideful, respecting others—these are all things that we should be aware of and doing on a daily basis. But like a lot of other “we should”s, it is easier said than done.

I will not always be the first to admit when I am wrong, and that is something I am completely aware of. I love being right! Don’t we all? It can be so satisfying sometimes to say “I told you so!” or snicker in our heads about that one question we definitely know the answer to. But admitting when we are wrong is way more important than feeling satisfied when we are right. Even more so, knowing when to be humble is an even greater quality.

Humility does not mean never getting recognized for good work, nor is it equivalent to passivity or meekness. Humility as a personal quality, rather, means refraining from boastfulness, from pride and arrogance. Humility, in my book, means knowing when we are right and when we are wrong, and making the conscious decision to abide by the idea that how we feel about ourselves on the inside—how we treat others)—is far more important than outward pride and boasting about our accomplishments.

At the same time, being humble does not have to mean we never recognize our own good qualities or actions. We can be proud of ourselves without never admitting we are at fault. We can uplift ourselves without bringing others down.

Love | 4.19.17

Love | 4.19.17

 

Blessed to have this love in my life. And grateful for every second of it.

 

Years ago I would think about who my other person would be and who I would end up marrying one day. I would lie in bed and wonder where in the world he was and when we would meet.

For Chris and I, everything was about timing. I’m happy ours worked out.

It’ll be three straight years of unceasing happiness on Tuesday, and we are already beaming with excitement!

Day 167

Day 167

I have been so caught up in the whirlwind of life lately: graduation is fast approaching, I am anxiously interviewing for jobs and biting my nails to hear back, my birthday is coming, people are moving away soon, and everything seems to be going a mile a minute.

So today I slowed down. I didn’t realize until minutes ago, but that’s what I did. I slept through my alarm, I took work slowly, I read slowly, I took a nap and took a sunset drive to In-n-Out with Chris and David. I lived life slowly and truly tasted it.

And you know what? It was a great day. Sure, I got turned down for an internship and I truly am putting all my energy into getting this one job that I think might be the best thing ever. And I didn’t take my schoolwork too seriously today—I didn’t buckle down or hustle. But that was the beauty of it all. In taking today slowly, I was able to taste every moment. Working this morning took a lot of thinking. Cooking my lunch was so enjoyable. Reading for my fairy tales class was so much fun and albeit relaxing. And driving to get a quick dinner with my boyfriend and roommate was a perfect moment.

I don’t know what life will be like in a year or two. But I do know that I am grateful for the life I lived today. And I want to make sure that even after I am in a full-time job in the real world, I want to always make time to take life a little slower.

Living Intentionally: 2017 Goals

Living Intentionally: 2017 Goals

I have been thinking a lot about goals for this year, some of which I began last year and will continue to carry through, and others that I want to start. So here is a list of my 2017 goals. I am posting it in this “Living Intentionally” section of the blog so that I can hold myself accountable, as these are my intentions for living in this new year and beyond. 🙂 I will probably continue to add to this list and plan to create posts throughout the year in this section updating you on my progress. Here we go! 

  1. Live every moment with intention: make it a habit to make decisions that align with my life and goals. This is number one because if I do not aim to do this, I can’t really accomplish anything else on this list.
  2. Aim to not react to things so quickly. Take a deep breath, relax, and think about my words and my emotions before reacting to anything so suddenly.
  3. Make an effort to feel beautiful, inside and out. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to put an effort into my appearance. Wearing makeup that flatters me and creating a wardrobe that inspires me will help me to feel confident in my own skin.
  4. Spend wisely and intentionally. Keep track of all my purchases, specifically those that are not necessities for living, and fully think through what I want to spend my money on. I am a college student on a budget–I have to act like it!
  5. Continue to make an effort to be kind and thoughtful to everyone around me. Treat others, even those who do not show me kindness, with kindness and warmth. We attract to us what we put out into the world.
  6. Have a clear divide between my work space and my sleep space. Spend more time working at my desk and table and less time sitting in my bed. This is a simple one, but it is so important to have these boundaries. Even with something like blogging: this is still work! Not doing it in bed will allow me to fully consider my sleep space as relaxing and my desk space as productive.
  7. Spend more time spiritually. Whether it is praying in the morning or before bed, reading spiritual books or texts, meditating, or just thinking and manifesting. This is something I began in 2016 and want to spend more time on in this new year.
  8. For every time I put myself down, I must give myself a compliment right after.
  9. Continue my morning weekend walks with Christopher. We started this last year and it is such a lovely time for us. Quiet time outside with my partner truly helps us recenter and enjoy the little things together as a couple. I love this.
  10. Fully embrace the Law of Attraction to create my dream life. Graduation is coming and I do not want to let the fear of the unknown keep me from my dreams. If I want something, I must attract it into my life and work to get it.
  11. Travel to Oregon and Maine. These are two places that I have been wanting to go for a while now. Chris and I keep bringing up the idea of visiting Maine, and he seems on board for Oregon as well. While traveling is always a goal, I wanted to write these two specific places on here because I truly believe I can save and manifest these places into my life this year.